Question is, how many would overlook the prospect of having to die first in order to get there? Not many because humans are mostly uncomfortable with anything that relates to death. A good example is that they\u2019d want to go to heaven but don\u2019t want to die.<\/p>\n
People will stay away basically because they don\u2019t know what to say during times of grief or death. Lucky enough, it\u2019s not something that one can\u2019t learn as there are tools that can help facilitate a productive conversation with someone. They are effective as one will in the process learn how to be and what to do when they approach death.<\/p>\n
The first tool demands that you ask the question \u201cWhat\u2019s currently important to you?\u201d You can accompany such a question with some remorse and show some sympathy by saying \u201cI\u2019m deeply sorry\u201d There\u2019s nothing else to it after that as all you are required to do is simply listen to them. Listening in itself helps a lot even if you don\u2019t have any answers to their questions.<\/p>\n
The things that they need may include sleep, comfort or company. This you can offer as you help relieve them from the pain and stress. You can for this instance, allow others to encroach into your personal space as its only then will they feel safe and trust in you.<\/p>\n
You need to not only ask but also do what needs doing. It\u2019s a way of helping out the family as they focus more on other issues.<\/p>\n
A testament to this is evident when a hospice volunteer coordinator in Beloit, Wisconsin, taught some of her volunteers to \u2018Do what needs doing\u2019 She even wrote a poem about it that describes how a kind soul came and helped clean and dehumidify her carpet while she sat with her husband in his death bed.<\/p>\n
The third tool consists of a few things namely being available, ever present, open-minded and quiet. There is also the need to be willing to hear, ask and do. You shouldn\u2019t at all anticipate what the other person\u2019s response will be when you ask a question. You just need to listen, it\u2019s that simple.<\/p>\n
One of the best things that happened to a person familiar to us when someone close to them died is when their best friend arrived to comfort them. The friend would make regular visits every day after work. Alarmingly, this person barely remembers any of the conversations, all they remember is that they felt relieved that their friend put everything aside and went to be with them.<\/p>\n
Mastering up the courage to ask someone what they really want or need during such time shouldn\u2019t be hard if you have the intentions of helping them out. It can make a big contribution in commencing the process of making one get over the grief they are in.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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